Why so many wives wish their husbands would cheat.

Dalrock has a good post commenting on the Huffpo article:
I just wish he would have an affair

“My husband is so nice. He’s a good guy. I just wish he would have an affair!”

I have heard these comments, or comments very similar to this, numerous times lately. What’s going on? I’m not sure I have an answer. In fact, I know I don’t have an answer…

Further down she elaborates:

These women are done. They say they aren’t happy. They say they aren’t in love with their husbands (or any other man — they aren’t having affairs). They say they simply wish they were no longer married to him. They aren’t fulfilled. They wonder if this is how they are doomed to live the rest of their lives (and God-willing, most of them have another 40+ years ahead of them).

The common factor amongst all of these women is that they say that their husbands are really solid, good, nice men. They are not victims of physical or emotional abuse. They are not married to felons. They are not married to alcoholics or drug addicts. Their husbands are not having affairs. In fact, they tell me, there really isn’t anything “wrong” with their husbands … they just don’t want to be married to them anymore because they have fallen out of love.

Dalrock’s two takeaways:

There are two key things we should all take away from this.  The first is that a divorcée with a seeming good excuse very well may not be as innocent as she sounds.  The profoundly biased family courts and the thorough corruption of modern Christianity create a huge incentive for wives to willfully maneuver their husbands into playing the patsy.  He may have hit her, he may have even cheated on her, but that doesn’t mean she was an innocent victim or is a good bet for (re)marriage.  Some number of women are certainly blameless, but unfortunately we typically can’t tell.  This is made all the worse by the bizarre willingness, often eagerness, of the blameless to stand in solidarity with the frivolous.

The other thing men especially must take away from this is to be aware of the risk.  As Devlin describes, “I’m not haaaapy!” isn’t just an innocent expression of marital dissatisfaction.  It is typically an indication that you are already well down the path of marital destruction.  Men need to be aware of this to protect themselves from false charges, and they need to be smart, restrained, and moral enough not to actually play the patsy.  No matter how much she communicates through her attitude and her actions that she wants you to hit her or cheat on her, don’t take the bait.

A lot of nice men don’t even stand a chance against the emotional manipulation of an unhaaaapy female.  Women are so natural at manipulation and dissembling and men are so unsuspecting of the root causes, and hence righteously angry, it is surprising that such things don’t happen more often.

This reminds me of the Aurther Schopenhauer excerpt on women:

(Women) are dependent, not upon strength, but upon craft; and hence their instinctive capacity for cunning, and their ineradicable tendency to say what is not true. For as lions are provided with claws and teeth, and elephants and boars with tusks, bulls with horns, and cuttle fish with its clouds of inky fluid, so Nature has equipped woman, for her defence and protection, with the arts of dissimulation; and all the power which Nature has conferred upon man in the shape of physical strength and reason, has been bestowed upon women in this form. Hence, dissimulation is innate in woman, and almost as much a quality of the stupid as of the clever. It is as natural for them to make use of it on every occasion as it is for those animals to employ their means of defence when they are attacked; they have a feeling that in doing so they are only within their rights. Therefore a woman who is perfectly truthful and not given to dissimulation is perhaps an impossibility, and for this very reason they are so quick at seeing through dissimulation in others that it is not a wise thing to attempt it with them. But this fundamental defect which I have stated, with all that it entails, gives rise to falsity, faithlessness, treachery, ingratitude, and so on.

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